How NOT to Feel Mediocre at Work and/or at Home

How NOT to Feel Mediocre at Work and/or at Home

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I recently led a workshop for 15 brilliant men and women. Total transparency, the room was a downright intimidating group of mainly female senior engineering, technology, and mathematics influencers. Despite some pre-game jitters for me, the workshop was engaging, impactful, and even fun!

The topic was: How to Speak Up and Use Unconscious Bias to Your Advantage, and we spent our time specifically on Emotional Control and Influence.

Their #1 Challenge: How not to feel mediocre at work and/or at home.

Due in part to unconscious bias and part to being a minority (either women or men who are atypical of being STEM leaders) in their field, these mostly PhD’s who were published, departments heads, and changing the world for the better, felt mediocre at work AND at home.

Here are a few tips to help you be and feel like you are world-class in your career and at home.

  1. Gain clarity...
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Quick Guide to Gaining World-Class Clarity (Take the "Get to Know Yourself" Questionnaire)

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Lack of clarity is the death of productivity AND joy.

I’ve seen it personally (... yes, I admit it!), and I’ve seen it in countless individuals and organizations. Whether it’s clarity on any given day, for a project or for a long-term mission, clarity is more important than you may even realize.

See, what we think and what we say to ourselves over and over again... we tend to believe. Take it even a step further. These thoughts and comments we make to ourselves (our internal dialogue) can manifest in our actions and eventually in the life we create for ourselves.

Clarity is the starting line for our best and most joyous selves.

Our ship needs to know where to sail, and we must believe the destination is not too remote. We must also know WHY we care so deeply... really why.

Leroy Dixon is a 2x Olympian and gold medalist in track and field. In a recent interview, I was surprised to learn, Dixon doesn’t even like track...

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Learn How to Be More Purposeful (3 World-Class Tips)

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Whether you consider yourself a world-class performer or not, you have a lot in common with those among the elite either professionally, academically or athletically. You may sometimes fall off your purpose or lose it entirely. ‘Is this really what I am meant to do in the long-term?’ ‘What is my purpose or the best way for me to make progress today?’ ‘I need to switch gears, so how do find my (new) purpose?’ Athletes retire or get injured, senior leaders switch careers, academics change fields of interest, so they are not immune either! Lacking clarity on purpose can feel like the middle place, and it doesn’t tend to be too comfortable (at least not in my experience). Partly because we are not making progress towards something where we are making an impact for ourselves and/or for others.

The good news is that we can learn from what world-class performers do a little differently to be more...

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Three Tips to Gain World-Class Clarity in 2018

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If you are like me, you are getting bombarded with content on how to make 2018 amazing, and most of it is GREAT!

But, there’s just one problem.

To truly make 2018 amazing, we need to gain clarity on what’s important to us, and then have the mindset to make clear and measurable progress.

Whoa! That sounds like a lot, so where should we start?

Well that part is easy!

Gaining world-class clarity on what’s most important to us is the vital first step. Your ship needs to know where to sail, or you won’t get far. You will also get pretty worn out in the process and possibly give up. We don’t want that!

Let’s take the first step to your best year ever, together.  Here are 3 tips:

  1. Choose family/relationships, career, wellness… What is one area that is incredibly important to you where you didn’t quite pull off your best last year?
  2. Believe what you desire is possible. Yep, it’s proven in...
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From “No Talent” to 2X Olympian & Gold Medalist ... A Conversation with Leroy Dixon

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What’s one thing we all have in common with world-class performers?

We all experience fear and doubt. These are two emotions that are felt at every level of performance, from novice to world-class. Striving for the next level and performing in moments that matter is scary, for everyone. There are also a couple fundamental differences that separates the best from the rest.

I was fortunate enough to interview Leroy Dixon recently, and he shared two of the most important factors that helped him go from “no talent” to 2X Olympian, gold medalist and (did I mention?) the 7th fastest man ever recorded in his event. Yes, Mr. Dixon has beaten Usain Bolt in his career as well. Maybe we are not going to be Olympians, but we CAN be world-class at what’s important to us. As a matter of fact, I believe we MUST. The army of do-gooders must prevail, so the time for us to level up is now.

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3 Secrets to Pre-Game Rituals That You Need to Know Now

Pre-game rituals are tools that help world-class performers to be calm and focused during situations that are important to them. The great thing is: You don’t have to be an Olympic hopeful to use rituals to help you do your best, especially when you are under pressure and the outcome matters.

Here are a few tips, so you can set up a ritual that helps you rise to the occasion:

1).  Fuel Up:

Do you have a favorite pre-game snack or meal? If there is something that you eat and/or drink in the morning or before an important event that sits well with you and gives you good energy?  Try making that part of your pre-game ritual.

2).  Look Sharp:

Do you have a favorite article of clothing? Maybe something that you feel confident wearing? Maybe a ‘lucky’ article of clothing that you’ve worn previously when you’ve really crushed something? If so, have it ready to go the next time you need to be world-class for something important to you!

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1 Epic Formula to Manage Emotions When the Stakes Are High

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Being able to manage emotions is a tool that can come in handy during important events at school, at home or in competitive situations.

Since emotions drive behavior, this is an important skill to understand and master, so all your hard work can pay off. Once it’s game time, it is time to trust yourself. In other words, trust that your desired result will happen (even if you are not so sure!)

World-class athletes perform their best when they are calm, carefree (of the outcome) and focused (on the most important thing to do their best). In other words, they trust and believe in themselves. Not being able to manage emotions is distracting, and the consequences can be significant and frustrating.

Keep this formula in mind, and you too will be able to champion your best results:

Emotional Control + Trust = Success.

Here’s how to get started with managing your emotions, especially when the stakes are high:

1.)  Recognize when...

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3 Steps on How to Be a Warrior When It Matters

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We may not be preparing for a NBA title or any national stage, but we do have events that are no less important to us. Maybe it’s educational, professional, or personal.

When it’s time to go to battle for something that really matters, there are a couple things you can do to be world-class and deliver.

1.)  Get Clarity on What You Want.
How do you want to perform, or what outcome do you want? For example, I want to place in the Top 3. Or I want to get a certain job or promotion. Clarity is the first step in going after and getting what’s important to you.

2.)  Believe it Will Happen.
In other words, ‘Proceed as if success is inevitable.’ You may have to be an actor or an actress because you may not believe what you want is 100% possible. Did For example, if you believe you can place in the top 3 or get that job promotion, you will start to search out ways to get better. It fuels confidence! Your mindset...

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3 Tips for You to Be World-Class in What's Important to YOU

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It is a common misconception that ‘either you have it or you don’t’. In other words, either you are good at math or you are not. You are talented at one sport but not at another. You are a follower and not a leader etc.

Here’s something that most people do not know!

There is no scientific proof that, even if one excels as a young person, that ‘talent’ is an indicator of whether or not you can become an expert. Sure, if you are 5’2” male, it may be difficult to play basketball at a high level (but not impossible!). All things considered, YOU are capable of much more than you think regardless if you have ‘talent’ or not. There’s one thing you can start doing now that will help you to be world-class in what’s important to you: Deliberate Practice. Anders Ericsson has spent decades researching this very topic and has written an entire book on deliberate practice, Peak.

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3 Reasons Why You Should Dream Big (and Not S.M.A.R.T.)

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In 1976, Steve Wozniak suggested to Hewlett Packard (his employer at the time) the idea of creating a personal computer. He was rejected, so he and his friend Steve Jobs got to work themselves on their dream of individual creativity for each user.

Martin Luther King had a dream that someday we would all be equal.

When Michael Phelps was 7 years old, he had a dream that there were no limits on what he could achieve.

Did these world-class performers meet all of the criteria of S.M.A.R.T. goals (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, timely)? No. They dreamt big and worked every day like that dream was possible, even through massive setbacks and failures.

Here are a couple of reasons why YOU should dream big too:

1.)  Broad to Narrow:
When you dream big, are more optimistic, and shoot for the stars, you are more aware of opportunities that present themselves. This broad awareness may lead you to be more confident and throw your hat...

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