“When the pressure is on, you don’t rise to the occasion —
you fall to your highest level of preparation.”
- Chris Voss
I recently spent time with Chris Voss and a few of his Black Swan NYPD and FBI hostage negotiators in New York City. It was slightly terrifying (I’m half joking), but the quote above sums up why most emotionally charged conversations escalate and ultimately fail to be productive.
Lack of preparation.
This is the first part of a live SOLD OUT masterclass series presented to the @theWITNetwork and the topic for an upcoming live event for @Coco Brown's amazing @the-athena-alliance, so I hope you find it helpful as well!
Most of us catastrophize about a potentially emotionally charged conversation which is understandable. Who wants to have an uncomfortable conversation? But, if the conversation is potentially emotional, it's likely an important one.
The first step to defuse an emotionally charged conversation is to make sure you...
Isn't It Time for Real Change? Let's Do This!
The world seems to be in a precarious place, and I believe wholeheartedly that the course correction that we need to see right now will be led by women (and fueled by some incredible allies). Do you agree?
As part of the Limitless Leader community, you’re undoubtedly committed to being a heard, valued, respected, and energized agent of change, with your family, peers, subordinates, and with your leadership while empowering others to do the same.
In addition to being lit up by what’s possible, sometimes leaning into our highest sense of contribution, can sometimes be challenging, frustrating, and downright exhausting!
Believe me, I hear you 100%.
Where our passion meets our expertise is our Olympics, our legacy, and what the world so desperately needs to see right now.
Like the work put in by Olympians, the thousands of hours and days leading up to competition, sometimes in solitude, and with no fanfare or recognition, we keep...
Do you ever get distracted or veer from what’s most important? Maybe you’re too overwhelmed to think about it, or you’re not even clear on what it is anymore! If so, you’re definitely not alone. Maybe it’s time to course-correct and get more strategic about the year you want to have and the impact you’re going to create in 2022…
This has certainly been a year of reflection, and it’s the perfect time to get clear on what matters most to you, how you’d like to achieve it, and how you’d like to feel in the process.
Maybe you’re so busy that you don’t have time to make a shift, or you are not sure where to start. As we wind up the year, here are a couple of things that might help create the impact you want and deserve on your terms.
Consider that goals are not just about your career, such as meeting/exceeding projections, having more influence with leadership,...
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Have you ever had a meeting, presentation or any important interaction go sideways? Most of us have. Along with being a missed opportunity to gain the influence, recognition or respect we want and deserve, what stings the most is usually our disappointment in ourselves. Let’s make sure it never happens again.
Here are the top 4 ways that amazing leaders and emerging leaders make mistakes AND how to convert the bomb to being a boss in the boardroom (or in any other crucial interaction):
1.) Lack of Preparation
Since you and your colleagues are likely Zoomed out, this is more important now more than ever. Plan key points/asks/needs/outcomes. Think through how you want the interaction to turn out, and how you want to feel once it’s over. Make it as vivid and visceral as possible, then visualize it until you believe it’s possible.
2.) Lack of Empathy
When it comes to crucial...
Have you ever felt like you are being called for more or a different level of impact?
Imagine if we, and those on our team, became influential thought leaders in our area of passion and expertise to affect even more positive change…
Whether you think you are an influencer or not, you are. People are watching. Colleagues, friends, family, even strangers. Let’s take a few moments to learn from one of the best thought leadership experts on the planet, Mel Abraham. He is also passionate about helping people get started in the thought leadership space.
He’s been interviewed by Larry King, various other media outlets, so it was a real honor to sit down with Mel and receive these gems of wisdom.
Here are the main points from our interview:
If you’re feeling a little (or a lot:) overwhelmed or out of control, I hear you! You are most definitely not alone. That gets compounded when we are absorbing and managing how other family members and team members are doing.
In my household, I have one son who is in Nevada with his girlfriend and her family (I’m in California), and my younger son is on the tennis team and a senior at UC Berkeley. The tennis season was cancelled, all of his friends went home and there will be no formal graduation ceremony (except at home!). My daughter (age 20), is supposed to be in Honolulu right now with her best friend for Spring Break. As you can imagine, she’s not too thrilled to be at home with me! Despite it all, everyone seems to be taking everything in stride (most of the time:).
Let’s take a moment for YOU and check in to see how you’re doing!
How you feel and how you are managing your thoughts and...
Strategic humor has the power to build relationships, relieve stress, and boost creativity, along with many other outcomes beneficial to the workplace. Humor strengthens bonds and can completely shift the mood of your environment. And the best part? Anybody can learn how to implement it! Watch my interview with global speaker, coach and neurohumorist, Karyn Buxman as we discuss this important topic.
Here Are a Couple of the Main Take-Aways and Action Items:
To be notified for future interviews sure to connect with me here on LinkedIn AND to lear more about how to build the mindset and influence for real change, join our community at www.SherylKline.com.
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If you can tell by the sheer horror on my face (see this blog article's photo) hearing from the amazing Emma Tommory what was expected of me prior to opening the Women of Silicon Valley 2019 conference this past May, I've definitely been afraid to pivot, to serve at a higher level and have the impact my heart was telling me to go after.
I imagine you’re already successful, but you’re feeling like there is more (impact, joy, contribution…), it may be time to pivot. Whether it’s an internal pivot in your company or your current career, or an external pivot toward something totally different, this typically takes a great deal of personal influence.
Here are 3 tips to get started with an even more influential mindset, so you can start taking more action towards what your heart is telling you:
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Four years ago I got asked by a dear friend to sit on a panel for a Google Ventures sponsored event which was hosted by Autodesk. The topic was "Mental Toughness for Women in Tech."
I thanked my friend, and politely declined.
At the time and for the past 25 years, my clients were world-class athletes typically ages 16-22... not the best, brightest and most successful women in technology residing in San Francisco, Silicon Valley and beyond.
Full transparency, I was scared.
Why would they listen to me? I essentially helped the top 1% teens and young adults to be their best, consistently and under highly important or high stakes situations.
Thankfully my friend at Autodesk was persistent, and fortunately I decided that my voice deserved to be heard. I prepared extensively (and then even prepared a lot more), showed up, delivered, and my business was forever changed... especially after I heard this from one of the...
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We all have ideas, feelings and wisdom that deserve to be heard AND that may have a profound impact on others. I almost look at it as an obligation. Whether you feel like you are influential or not, you can learn to become more influential, and it starts with gaining an influential mindset.
Keep in mind that you believe what you consistently tell yourself, so use your internal voice wisely! You may have to be an actor or actress in the beginning.
I DON'T mean "fake it until you MAKE it."
I DO mean, "fake it until you BECOME it."
The first step to gaining the influence at work OR at home, is to believe that what you desire is possible.
Fortunately, there's a great tool you can use to do just that! It's a positive affirmations app that myself and my 1:1 clients...
Do you feel like everything is catching up with you?
Overwhelmed by your current schedule and possibly underwhelmed by the progress you’re making on initiatives that matter to you?
It’s definitely that time of year, and you are not alone. The good news is that you can have a "mini intervention" with yourself, your schedule, and the impact you’re having, so you can feel less overwhelmed and more in control and on purpose. You’ll likely be more fun to be around too:)
This "Get to Know Yourself" questionnaire will help you next-level your understanding of who you are and what’s important to you. You’ll be looking from a perspective that may be unfamiliar, but this can be a catalyst to ignite momentum and inspire consistent action.