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Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 3 of the 3-Part Video Series): "The Power of Practicing Your Ask"

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Preparation is powerful. But here’s the trap I see so many fall into: they spend all their time practicing the “why” behind their ask… and almost no time practicing the “what.”

When negotiating salary, budget, or new opportunities, leaders will confidently talk about their accomplishments and impact. But when the conversation turns to “So what are your salary expectations?”—their voice changes, their tone drops, and their confidence wavers. Yes, making a bold ask, especially a pecuniary one, is uncomfortable, but it does not have to be!

Here are three ways to sound even more confident making a big ask::

Say the number—or the resource—out loud, multiple times.
Slow your speaking.
Land the plane. End with a steady, descending tone that conveys confidence (An ascending tone conveys asking permission and uncertainty.).

In order for others to be confident that our ‘ask’ is a good idea, we must be confident in ourselves first. Remember, the research tells us that only 7% of what ...

Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 2 of the 3-Part Video Series): "Turning Resistance Into Your Superpower"

compensation negotiation worth Sep 09, 2025

Have you ever noticed that right when you’re about to ask for something important—like a raise, more resources, or a new opportunity—resistance shows up?

Maybe it’s worry, fear, or imposter syndrome whispering in your ear. Most of us, understandably, see these emotions as negative. . But what if they were actually superpowers in disguise?

Resistance is often our ego’s way of trying to protect us. But instead of fighting it, you can reframe it into wisdom and fuel.

Here’s how:
✔ First, notice the emotion: “I notice I feel worried.”
✔ Next, assume success is inevitable: “If I already had the outcome I wanted, what would this emotion advise me to do in order to be my best or improve?

One of my clients used this exact approach in a salary negotiation at a fast-growing startup. By reframing her worry, she did deeper preparation, clearly articulated her value, and—most importantly—positioned herself as the solution to the CEO’s biggest problem.

That shift made her ask not just credible, b...

Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 1 of the 3-Part Video Series): "Emotional Regulation: The First Step to Negotiation Success"

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Many times leaders prepare for negotiations with facts, research, and strategy. Yet they skip the very first—and most crucial—step: emotional regulation.

Without it, even the most confident ‘ask’ can fall flat.

One client of mine recently received a dream job offer. On paper, it looked incredible. But she knew the offer wasn’t as strong as it could be. The emotion on her mind was ‘worry’. After a five-month search, she was afraid that if she asked for more, she might lose the opportunity altogether.

This is where emotional regulation comes in. Instead of identifying with her fear by saying, “I am worried,” she was able to reframe it as, “I notice I feel worried..”

This small but powerful shift that helps neutralize negative emotions that can get in our way.. It allows us to observe the emotion without becoming emotionally disregulated.

👉 Watch the full video (above.)

If you’re facing your next big ask, pause and ask yourself: What am I feeling? Then notice it, name it, and remind ...

Get Compensated for What You're Worth: "Introduction to the 3-Part Video Series"

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The research tells us that women get offered less, and rarely try to negotiate compensation packages.

Let’s change that!

It could be a new role, a bigger salary, additional resources, or even just the chance to lead the next big project. Yet so many leaders—no matter how advanced—feel hesitation, worry, or even imposter syndrome when it comes time to make an ask for what they want and deserve..

That’s why I created this short 3-part video series: “Get Compensated for What You're Worth”

Here’s what you’ll learn:
✅ Part 1 – Emotional Regulation: The first and most overlooked step.
✅ Part 2 – Turning Resistance Into Rocket Fuel.
✅ Part 3 – Practicing Your Ask With Confidence.

This process is based on what I’ve taught executives, Olympic athletes, and high performers around the world. It’s proven, it’s practical, and it works.

👉 Watch the full video series starting here.

You are worthy of what you’re asking for. My hope is this series equips you with tools to not only ask—but to ask w...

Podcast Episode #102: "The Importance of Pay Transparency" - an Interview with Gavriella Schuster

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The Importance of Pay Transparency

In case you missed my LIVE interview with the remarkable Gavriella Schuster (DE&I Advocate, Global Business Executive, Board Director, Strategic Advisor, and Former Corporate Vice President at Microsoft), here are a few of the wisdom gems she shared:

In your career growth, the first thing that you do doesn’t have to be the thing that defines you. You are going to change things up multiple times throughout your life. The important thing is that you’re learning and getting experience
Every decision in life doesn’t have to determine the pathway you take in your career or entire life. You will always have the opportunity to adjust and change as you learn more
Always learn new things and be a continuous learner
Always self-reflect. “If I don’t want to do what I’m doing. What is it ‘I do want to do?’ And how am I going to define my own success doing that?”
The importance of pay transparency is knowing your worth in the work that you do, how much y

She Got the Raise, the Title, and the Respect…

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"She Got the Raise, the Title, and the Respect…"

Are you owning your value enough?

If that question made you take a pause, it’s ok. Not voicing our value or owning our worth has happened to most of us at one time or another.

But, it doesn’t have to.

According to DiversityWomen Media, ‘Women are often less assertive than men in the workplace and tend to apologize or minimize the importance of what they say when they do speak up-even female executives in meetings with their peers.’

Part of the challenge is that owning our value is a counterculture for many of us.

That was the case for Sue (not her real name:), a 1:1 Limitless Leader client of mine who is a female senior executive in finance. She had a 30-minute call scheduled for her annual review. The call was actually 10 minutes (...her boss was 10 minutes late and left 10 minutes early.)

She was rated as ‘far exceeds’ due to the growth of her line of business and progress on major (new) initiatives that she’s now responsible for. ‘Far ex...

Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 3 of the 3-Part Video Series): "The Power of Practicing Your Ask"

Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 2 of the 3-Part Video Series): "Turning Resistance Into Your Superpower"

Get Compensated for What You're Worth (Part 1 of the 3-Part Video Series): "Emotional Regulation: The First Step to Negotiation Success"

Get Compensated for What You're Worth: "Introduction to the 3-Part Video Series"

Podcast Episode #102: "The Importance of Pay Transparency" - an Interview with Gavriella Schuster

The Importance of Pay Transparency

She Got the Raise, the Title, and the Respect…

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