4 Things to Avoid When Asking for What You're Worth

Have you ever felt like (or had the facts) another colleague is being paid more for an equal or lesser role?

The good news is that you’re not alone. The bad news is that it can be very unfair, disrespectful, demotivating, and bad for business.

You may be thinking that this shouldn’t even be an issue, and that there should not be a discrepancy. Agreed 100%.

But, until pay transparency is more regulated and more systems are in place to manage this very real problem,  it may be time to speak up! If you already have, a few new tools could make all the difference for round 2.

Yes, it’s going to take time to get further down this road on pay equality, so it may be helpful to get comfortable (or I should say, confident and influential) about asking for what you are worth.

There is progress being made however for pay transparency and fairness, partially in thanks to pay transparency advocate and former Corporate VP,...

Strategies for Building Confidence in Your New Role

In case you missed my LIVE interview with the phenomenal Dena Jones (Vice President, Office of the CIO at Fannie Mae), here are a few of the wisdom gems she shared:  

• You don’t need to check all the boxes, a couple of the boxes are fine... and you need to go for it
• Take more risks
• Realize you don't have to do it on your own
• Build a network of people around you that can support you and guide you. Have mentors and sponsors
• Always seek to learn more and grow. That never stops. It’s not like you get to a place and say "okay, I’m here and I don’t need to learn anymore"
• Listen to each other. Listen to different perspectives
• Do something transformational
• Verbalize what you’re good at
• If you feel too comfortable, it’s time to reassess what you're doing
• Always articulate what you want

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Growing Visibility for Women in Wealth Management

In case you missed my LIVE interview with the remarkable Brie Williams (Vice President, Head of Practice Management at SPDR Exchange Traded Funds - State Street Global Investors), here are a few of the wisdom gems she shared:

• Having an open mind and willingness to try something different, even if it's not what you've envisioned for yourself
• Learning to get comfortable in failing fast and failing up
• Building your confidence and strengthening your resilience through self-doubt and anxiety
• Using your network of colleagues and partners as a safe forum for trying out your ideas
• The importance and value of the give and take of the sponsorship/mentorship relationship
• Being authentic to yourself and embracing the many shapes and sizes of diversity.

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There is Reason for Optimism in 2022

I hope your year is off to a healthy, productive, and impactful start!

What do you love about what you do?

For me, I love being the guide so you, your team, or your colleagues can be the hero. While very aware of the importance of data, it’s not so exciting to me.

There was, however, some notable data that came out of 2021 that (I feel) is important for you to know, so we can learn and improve from it.

First, the "not so good news" uncovered from a pre-coaching assessment that was filled by the 10 female heart-centered leaders I was so honored to have worked with 1:1 in 2021 as well as the facilitations done for their managers and from the virtual speaking events that reached thousands.

• Female leaders are still feeling silenced, overlooked, and disregarded by their leadership.
• This is exacerbating overwhelm and burnout.
• Change is happening, but these inequities are not spoken about or addressed quick enough.

I’d like to...

Want to Rise More in 2022?

If you know you’re doing a great job, but you feel like you’re getting overlooked, excluded or not on leadership’s radar enough, it could be the perfect time to get a plan in place to dial up your visibility and rise more. While there may be many things that are not controllable, there is one thing that is 100% under your control, and that’s the impact that YOU decide you want to have. Likely having greater impact means getting leadership on the bus with your ideas and seeing you as a confidant and trusted advisor. Let’s make sure you have a visibility plan in place now, so you can have as impactful a year as possible.

Here are a few questions that will help you take the first step, gaining personal clarity, to rise more in 2022. Deciding on the answers to these questions and taking action on them is a way of accepting where you’re being called for your highest sense of leadership. They will also help lay the foundation...

Take the New Mindset Mastery Assessment

If you’re feeling a little (or a lot:) overwhelmed or out of control, I hear you! You are most definitely not alone. That gets compounded when we are absorbing and managing how other family members and team members are doing. 

In my household, I have one son who is in Nevada with his girlfriend and her family (I’m in California), and my younger son is on the tennis team and a senior at UC Berkeley. The tennis season was cancelled, all of his friends went home and there will be no formal graduation ceremony (except at home!). My daughter (age 20), is supposed to be in Honolulu right now with her best friend for Spring Break. As you can imagine, she’s not too thrilled to be at home with me! Despite it all, everyone seems to be taking everything in stride (most of the time:). 

Let’s take a moment for YOU and check in to see how you’re doing!

How you feel and how you are managing your thoughts and...

Christina Now Has The Clarity And Confidence To Go For It!

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Does lack of clarity and/or confidence ever hold you back?

Christina Grenier, a senior-level marketing/communications strategist, shares her experience about working with me to gain the clarity and confidence to go after her next big career dream. 

Watch Christina's video below, and email me back if you can relate or want to share your story.

Also...

I wanted to send you a private invitation to join my upcoming LIVE! (yay!) "7 Day Mental Toughness Challenge." I will be coaching you through the challenge for a full 7 straight days on my Facebook page fb.com/mentaltoughnesscoach (... so be sure to "Like" the page too.)

Why am I SO excited?!

Because at the end of these 7 days you will have made progress. You'll prove to yourself that ... although the struggle is real ... there is a structure to gain the clarity and confidence you need to dream, plan...

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I saw Serena Williams play an exhibition match in Los Angeles when she was only 11 or 12 years old. Looking back, I wonder if she realized that she would be the named best player in the open era and have earned more than 22 Grand Slam titles!  Not to mention all of her other unimaginably successful endorsements and businesses. Maybe not down to those exact details, but she did work every day believing her day would come, and believing it was possible.

It’s that unwavering belief in ourselves that allows us to dream big and persevere.

When it comes to our long-term objectives it’s important that we “proceed as if success is inevitable” (my favorite quote, BTW), hold on to our dream, and then relinquish control of the outcome. You, like Serena Williams early in her career, have little to no control of the scale of your future success. There are many unknowns:

• What will the competition be like?
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It’s time! If you feel like you deserve more, it’s time to go after it.

There are many reasons why we (yes, me included:) avoid the crucial conversations or steps required to next-level our ambitions and desires. Whatever is holding you back, rest assured it’s 100% normal and OK, but not conducive for the progress you want to see.

Keep in mind, your next "BIG WIN" might be restoring or strengthening a relationship. It might be taking your business to the next level, closing one new client, or maybe asking for a raise. Whatever it is for you, there are tools you can learn to gain the confidence required to achieve whatever it is that you want and deserve.

Here’s how to get started!

1. Believe
   Believe what you want is possible AND that you deserve it. This is a vital first step that must be explicit in your mind. If you are not 100%, try writing daily affirmations and and saying them out loud every night and every...

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Do you ever feel like negative thoughts and emotions are holding you back?

Emotions are no joke when it comes to us being able to be our best, especially in moments that matter most. Everyone experiences negative emotions from time to time! 

I want to help you use negative emotions as a superpower!

There are a couple things that world-class performers do a little differently which helps them to use emotions (even the negative ones!) to their advantage. In this week's video you'll learn:

1.) The (very) basic science behind why managing emotions is SO important, and what this means to you

2.) The consequences of not having a game plan to deal with negative emotions

3.) The 3 simple steps you can start doing today to help you go from rattled to ready

I am here to support you every step along the way, so let’s do this!

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