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Mastering the Art of the Ask for Women in the Workplace

 

Growing up, I used to go with my dad to drop off and pick up the clothes at the neighborhood laundromat. Whenever he lost his ticket to claim his clothes, the laundromat owner would say: ‘No ticket, no wash.’ And she was not kidding!

When it comes to building visibility, impact, and the support from your leadership, if you don’t ask, you’re likely not going to get. 

This is a double whammy because our male counterparts tend to be 4 times more likely to make an ask for a raise or a higher salary when initially hired according to Women Don't Ask by Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever.

If this sounds familiar, the good news is that you’re certainly not alone. The not so good news is that you could be losing out on $1,000,000.00 during the course of your career according to the recent UC Davis study, titled Women Don't Ask: Negotiation and the Great Gender Divide.

The ability to effectively make an ask is a valuable skill that can open doors, forge...

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3 Steps to Build the Influence You Want and Deserve

 

There is a misconception about influence that it is reserved for the elite few or for those in positions of authority.

We all have ideas, feelings and wisdom that deserve to be heard AND that may have a profound impact on others. I almost look at it as an obligation. Whether you feel like you are influential or not, you can learn to become more influential, and it starts with gaining an influential mindset.

Keep in mind that you believe what you consistently tell yourself, so use your internal voice wisely! You may have to be an actor or actress in the beginning.

I DON'T mean "fake it until you MAKE it."

I DO mean, "fake it until you BECOME it."

The first step to gaining the influence at work OR at home, is to believe that what you desire is possible.

Fortunately, there's a great tool you can use to do just that! It's a positive affirmations app that myself and my 1:1 clients use called ThinkUp. Used...

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Need Leadership's Buy-in? Take Control with These 4 Strategies

 

Need Leadership's Buy-in? Take Control with These 4 Strategies

Have you ever had that brief yet vitally important window of time to speak with your leadership or board only to let your emotions get the best of you and feel disappointed at the outcome?

Whether negotiating an offer for a new title, a monetary raise, promotion, or buy-in on an idea, it’s vital to prepare your mindset AND that of your counterpart.

Here are a few tips to make sure you feel in control of your next crucial conversation:

  1. Have an ECO Mindset prior to entering into any high-stakes conversation. (Have "E"mpathy for the other, "C"uriosity for what he/she might feel/be experiencing, and "O"ptimism for how you’d like the conversation to turn out). If you’re not feeling the love, postpone the conversation. Anger and frustration, while 100% understandable, will likely come out in your tone/gesture which will not be helpful to your cause.
  2. Begin with acknowledging the other’s perspective. Be...
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Podcast Episode #46: "Key Strategies to Advance Young Women in Politics (and How We All Benefit)" - An Interview with Giovanna Mingarelli

Key Strategies to Advance Young Women in Politics (and How We All Benefit)

What an honor to have interviewed @giovannamingarelli who is full steam ahead in creating a global movement for women in the technology and politics space. Here are the key take-aways, but I'd like to invite you to listen to the entire 30 minute interview.

Giovanna Mingarelli is the CEO and Co-Founder of two international companies, M&C Consulting and MC2, and plays the dual role of technology entrepreneur and thought leader. For 15 years Ms. Mingarelli has worked in the field of political and digital communications and has served in the office of a former Prime Minister of Canada. Ms. Mingarelli is a member of the Government of Canada Treasury Board Secretariat External Advisory Board for Talent Cloud, developing the future of work for Canada’s Public Service. She has been a Parliamentary witness and a keynote speaker relating to the advancement of young women in politics and digital democracy...

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Take the New Mindset Mastery Assessment

Take the New Mindset Mastery Assessment

If you’re feeling a little (or a lot:) overwhelmed or out of control, I hear you! You are most definitely not alone. That gets compounded when we are absorbing and managing how other family members and team members are doing. 

In my household, I have one son who is in Nevada with his girlfriend and her family (I’m in California), and my younger son is on the tennis team and a senior at UC Berkeley. The tennis season was cancelled, all of his friends went home and there will be no formal graduation ceremony (except at home!). My daughter (age 20), is supposed to be in Honolulu right now with her best friend for Spring Break. As you can imagine, she’s not too thrilled to be at home with me! Despite it all, everyone seems to be taking everything in stride (most of the time:). 

Let’s take a moment for YOU and check in to see how you’re doing!

How you feel and how you are managing your thoughts and...

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Podcast Episode #39: "The Mindset to Achieve United Nations Sustainable Development Goal #5, Gender Equal" - An Interview with George Sifakis

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The Mindset to Achieve United Nations Sustainable Development Goal #5, Gender Equality by 2030

Ending all discrimination against women and girls is not only a basic human right, it’s crucial for sustainable future; it’s proven that empowering women and girls helps economic growth and development. I had the honor of interviewing fellow Women in Cloud presenter and Global Chair and CEO of Ideagen®, George Sifakis. We had an impactful conversation about Ideagen's commitment to the United Nations Sustainable Development goal #5 which is gender equality.

Get Answers to These Questions and Action Items:

  1. Who are the benefactors when women are empowered and supported in the workplace?
  2. What roles can men play?
  3. What's the goal of the United Nations Sustainable Development goal #5 (gender equality)?  What does it stand for?
  4. What progress is being made now?

To be notified for future interviews sure to connect with me here on LinkedIn AND to lear more about how to...

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Sneak Peek: An Exercise From My Upcoming Book "ZONED-IN: The Mental Toughness Required for a World-Class YOU"

Sneak Peek!

An Exercise From My Upcoming Book "ZONED-IN: The Mental Toughness Required  for a World-Class YOU"

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I am SO excited to share a sneak peek from my upcoming book, "ZONED IN: The Mental Toughness Required for a World-Class YOU!"

The content of the book was inspired in part by your questions, input, struggles and triumphs. My intention for ZONED IN is to be a mindset guide, manifesto and call to action, so it empowers you to take even more consistent bold action towards whatever is most important right now (your personal Olympics.)

The book starts with an exercise in reflection using the "Ambition Checkpoint Questionnaire."

Email me what you think. I welcome all comments or questions. 


CHAPTER 1, SECTION 2: GET TO KNOW YOURSELF

Celebrate! Celebrate the process and the commitment of learning how to refine your clarity, believe in your ambitions, and use your thoughts and emotions in a way that will champion your momentum...

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How to GAIN CLARITY for Your Next Big Move

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Sometimes our dreams and aspirations are a little mismatched with our efforts.

Full transparency... I was called out on this one by my mentor this past January. Don’t get me wrong I was working hard and extremely busy. There was something missing when it came to how I was approaching my next level of success. I had next-leveled my ambitions, but how I spent my time was the same. My ambitions were not aligned with the next level of success I wanted (and knew I deserved.) This worked for a while, but the next level would require me to "go pro."

Once I made the necessary adjustments and fine-tuned some key habits, that’s when the next level was attainable.

We’ve talked about where you fall on the ladder. But what are your current circumstances now, and what level of commitment are you willing to have?

  • Pro: You are actively taking action to become the person you want to be, and you are remarkably...
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The Real Secret for Leveraging Mental Toughness to Rock Disruption

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We all face the threat of someone or something disrupting our status quo.

The mere thought of disruption can be paralyzing or it can be a secret weapon. It’s all in your mindset and what you choose to do with it.

Here’s one tip to leverage Mental Toughness to rock disruption so you can get aggressive today about planning how to rise above the rest tomorrow: Keep this in mind, and you’ll be on your way to using a tool you already have in a way that most people don’t know about.

Here’s how: Use fear to drive progress.

In order to foster creativity, productivity and courage it’s important to use this emotion to your benefit rather than to your detriment. Fear can be paralyzing or it can be a super power. It depends on your mindset, how you perceive it.

Here’s a great sequence for transitioning fear into a super power for you:

1.)  Recognize a potential threat and its...

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My Gift to You: A Secret Tool How to Show Up and Deliver

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Have you taken the Mental Toughness Quiz? If not, NOW would be a great time. This is just a quick snapshot to see where you are in a couple key areas of Mental Toughness.

 

If you've already taken the quiz, I honor you for investing time to learn about your mindset in certain situations.

Either way, I have a quick question! Have you ever prepared relentlessly for a competitive event, a presentation or even an important conversation only to show up and NOT deliver?

As a student, young athlete and working professional, I had more than a few memorable struggles of my own, and I don’t wish the frustration and disappointment on anyone. This is why I’ve spent the last two decades studying, researching and working with world-class performers, so YOU don’t have to experience what I did. It’s also why it is SO important for me to share this outstanding worksheet that I normally reserve for my 1:1 and group...

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