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3 Steps to Build the Influence You Want and Deserve


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There is a misconception about influence that it is reserved for the elite few or for those in positions of authority.

We all have ideas, feelings and wisdom that deserve to be heard AND that may have a profound impact on others. I almost look at it as an obligation. Whether you feel like you are influential or not, you can learn to become more influential, and it starts with gaining an influential mindset.

Keep in mind that you believe what you consistently tell yourself, so use your internal voice wisely! You may have to be an actor or actress in the beginning.

I DON'T mean "fake it until you MAKE it."

I DO mean, "fake it until you BECOME it."

The first step to gaining the influence at work OR at home, is to believe that what you desire is possible.

Fortunately, there's a great tool you can use to do just that! It's a positive affirmations app that myself and my 1:1 clients use called ThinkUp. Used consistently (every day for 5 minutes prior to bedtime), ThinkUp is an amazing world-class tool.

Here are a few tips to get started:

  1. Believe in yourself, your ideas, your worth, and your contribution.
    If you don’t believe in yourself, it’s unlikely others will believe in you.
  2. Let go of the outcome.
    Those with an influential mindset are less concerned with the outcome or with what people will think and more concerned about getting their message across clearly and with impact. In other words, they focus on the most important things they have control over to get their message across.
  3. Get accountable to someone who believes in you. 
    The people who we spend our time with shape who we are. If you are looking to build your influence, try finding at least one friend or mentor that believes in you and your ideas. Make a conscious effort to spend time with them to get encouragement and to practice having influential conversations.

 am 100% sincere when I tell you that influence can be yours IF it’s important to you. Like many other skills, it is learned.

Here’s a personal example.

I always knew I was passionate about teaching Mental Toughness, so I could help people to dream, plan and achieve their best. The problem was that no one had heard of Mental Toughness coaching before. I first had to believe that it was valuable and could transform lives. That’s where it all starts. I have been SO blessed to delivered content at Google Ventures, Microsoft, Pixar, Autodesk, VMware, CapitalOne and to various CEO’s and senior leaders in the San Francisco Bay Area and Silicon Valley. Let’s not forget the amazing teens and young adults around the world that I have had the privilege of working with that are now crushing it! I admire them SO much.

I struggled as a young person and early in my career, and it took me a long time learn how to have an influential mindset and then move on to learning how to actually have influence itself. The influence tool is still being sharpened, and I will always be studying it! I am SO excited to condense and share what I’ve learned over the last two decades about how you can gain a more influential mindset.

I am here to support you and to make this content real.  Please shoot me an email and let me know if you have any questions, comments or successes to share.

Here’s to you being amazing and learning how to gain the mindset required to have the influence you desire and that you deserve!

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