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4 Steps to Preparing for Your Next Crucial Conversation

crucial conversation May 19, 2021

4 Steps to Preparing for Your Next Crucial Conversation

Are you hoping to nail an upcoming crucial conversation but a little worried about how it might turn out?

Whether you’ve completely missed the mark on a past conversation, or you didn’t exactly receive the results you were hoping for, here are four steps that can serve as a guideline to achieve meaningful results on your next conversation that matters. 

Step #1
5 deep belly breaths or “box breathing” to help build your physical and mental presence. Breath in for 5 seconds, hold for 5, exhale for 5, hold for 5. Not only for your internal focus but also to prepare how others perceive you.  

Step #2
Awareness. Notice whichever emotions are triggered by an upcoming conversation (ie: fear, anger, frustration…). 

Step #3
Distance yourself. Create a distance from your negative emotions, thoughts or feelings by shifting from “I am” to “I notice.” For example, "I am worried about xyz" is "I notice that xzy worries me." This creates distance between you and the emotion and allows you to make a good decision about what to focus on that will support your best performance.  

Step #4
Decide. Choose 1 or 2 essential things you need to focus on in the crucial conversation. For instance, focus on the facts and eye contact. This will help you remain calm by not worrying about several things that are out of your control, which could hinder your concentration and overall performance.

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Extra credit!

Visualize how you would like your conversation to turn out. The default for most people, especially for high-stakes conversations or conversations that have not gone well in the past is to catastrophize. In other words, think about what could go wrong. While understandable, this is not conducive to your best performance nor the best possible outcome. Visualizing how you’d like a conversation to go as well as how you and the other person/people would like to feel will help you remain calm, confident, and optimistic. Want to learn more about Visual Optimization training? Let me know, and I’ll be sure to include it in future blogs!

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